So, I guess you all are wondering if I ever desired a boyfriend, mate or whatever you all call it now and days. Let me tell you, from an early age I LOVED BOYS. I knew one day I wanted to have a boyfriend and have babies. At a young age I didn't realize how hard it would be to get into relationship. All I knew is that I wanted to have a boy and play Mommy and Daddy. Little did I know.
When I was ten years old and in the fifth grade, I met a boy named Mark Anthony. It was an awkward way the way we met. My friend introduce me to him because he kept bothering her so she wanted him off her back. We decided we would become "boyfriend and girlfriend" that same day. This relationship lasted almost eight years til my senior year. I got to have my first kiss when I was fourteen years old. We actually waited four years to get to that level. We were at a place where our parents would let us spend time with each other almost every weekend until we got older that is got a little more trickier to see each other since the hormones were starting to rise. For the longest time I thought I was going to marry him one day because I thought no other boy would give me a time a day. Mark was the one I took to my Junior Prom and we went to a lot of school dances together. My family really got to know him so well. So, I strongly believe that I would have settled for him. I made myself believe I was "In Love" with him until my senior year I knew it wasn't love. I had fallen out of love for this guy that did nothing wrong but I knew he wasn't "The One".
My Senior year was a year to remember. I had my eye on this one particular boy. This young man would change the way I felt. I never had felt this way for anybody. I got to know him for that year and he was everything I was looking for at that time. I went through a rough time my senior year and he was there for me every time. I had fallen hard for him and we got together for a while and tried it out but it didn't work. Two years later we would reconnect and we decided we would try it out again. My heart was happy. I was 20 years old at this time and he had just graduated from High School. He was the love of my life. I knew I wanted to be with him forever. My heart was longing for him for such a long time. James will always have a piece of my heart. He taught me that anybody would be lucky to have me and that I was the most beautiful girl he had met. Everything was going so good until his dad got involved and I guess I wasn't good enough for his son. My heart broke into million pieces. It would eventually come back to bite him in the butt. When he was ready to have me completely, I was already taken.God knew what he was doing when things fell apart.
Now, where we left off from blog number Six. I was working at Dairy Queen when one day we got a new cook that day. I still remember like it was yesterday. I went to the back to see who this person was and there was Matthew. He stood there all dorky with his glasses with his green eyes and white and his little ears, and I was like, "Helllloooo, my name is Yvonne what is yours"? Since that day in February 2003 I was out to make him mine. I did so many stupid things that I"m embarrassed to tell but here it goes. I would literally stock him to see if he was home but I wasn't that bad, I never pulled into his apartment area I would just drive by. I knew most of his hangouts. Ay no, I still can't believe I would do that. It got to the point this guy didn't want me around because to him I was annoying. So, I left Matthew alone for four months until he reached out to me. I remember I was going into Dairy Queen after my cousin Amy wedding wearing my blue dress (I was her bridesmaid) and Matt was working that night and that is when everything changed. I didn't know that my life was about to change at that time but he did. This all happen in September 2003. Matthew started to call me and wanting to hang out.
I made sure that I would change my childish ways. I didn't want to lose his friendship if I couldn't have him in the romantic way. I was patient with him. By this time he figured out I really wanted more, I was ready for the next step with him. I remember on my birthday in October he wanted to take me to Corpus to walk the beach not knowing he was catching feelings for me since my cousin wedding. The walk on the beach was a night to remember. I can't describe that feeling. We were just still friends during this time but it felt different, I knew something was going to happen. We had a big weekend planed at the Island I just turned "21" and he took me to my first liquor store and brought lots of bottles. The Island was a night that we will never forget.
We ended up at the Bahia Mar condos for the weekend of my birthday with some friends. I remember making a bet with Matthew that i could get his shirt off by the end of the night. Well... The night got started, I was taking shots and little did I know the rest of them were out smoking weed and taking shots. At the time I hadn't known Matt was involved in that until I saw him sitting out on the balcony. I went over to him and asked if he was ok. He ended up getting sick and I mean sick so I had to take his shirt off and he refused because of our bet. Only way to get that shirt off to clean him up was that everyone agreed to call off the bet. Needless to say, the shirt came off I cleaned him up. We went outside to sit him down on the chair. That is where everything changed. He had called me over and told me to sit on his lap and I about panicked my heart was raising. I reacted liked this because I knew what he wanted, he wanted to save himself for marriage and his first kiss for the "right one". I didn't want to take that away from him. So, i did sit on his lap,not going to lie, I wanted this day to happen, then he asked for a kiss. I turned him down at first and told him to wait for the right one because that is what he wanted. He kissed me first and I went for it I was his first kiss ever.. Part of me was happy and a part of me was worried. I wasn't sure what to think, we were both a little tipsy but ended up going with the flow. We ended up going further but I'm glad we were strong enough to refuse temptation of Purity. That was something I didn't want to go down that way. It was something I was taught a lot. Wait til marriage.
We woke up next to each other the next day in each other arms. He took me on a walk to see the sunrise on the beach. I knew this was either going to scare him or it was going to end up good. I prayed that day that it would be in our favor to be together. The ride home was soo quiet but he did held my hand on the drive but it wasn't a sealed deal. I remember getting home and my Mom and Mama asking what had happened and if I did anything because I had markings that were inevitable. I was not proud of that but it happened. I made sure to reassure them nothing happened in the way that we would both regret later. I didn't know what to think. I was with my manager that night telling her, "I think I lost Matthew" she knew everything that had happened. She actually knew everything that would go on with all of us. Finally that night I get the call I was waiting for.
Matthew called me that night and told me to meet him at Waffle House that he needed to speak to me. My manager went and dropped me off to get my car. Headed that way to meet with him hoping it wasn't bad. I didn't want to lose him even if we were just friends. I saw him in a booth and he greeted me with a kiss on the cheek and a hug and I sat down. He then proceeded to tell me that he had done a lot of praying that day. He asked God what should I do. His intentions were to leave to Austin to run from this then he said God spoke to him and told him that one day I would be his Wife. So, on October 27th, 2003 he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was the happiest girl in the world. I had longed for him for months and now it was becoming a reality. From that point on we would go out on dates and dancing every week. We were learning more and more about each other. I remember in November he told me he loved me for the first time.
I also remember that his parents weren't that fond of me at that time.They wanted a Godly woman for their son. As they got to know me they realized I was different. It was very awkward at first with them. I spent Christmas with them and it was very different from what I was used to. Then, the day came that things would change drastically. I was going on a date with his Mom to go see a movie and dinner. I still remember the first movie ever with her, 50 First Dates. That day was the day Matthew was going to my Mama house to go ask for my hand in marriage. I had no idea that was happening.
On March 2nd on his birthday, Matthew wanted his parents and mine to go for dinner for his day. I thought it was odd but went with the flow. I just assumed that is the way White culture did things. Little did I know what would happen next. Matthew got down on one knee and asked me, "Will you marry me"? I was in shock, all I could do is look at his mom and with her big smile looked at me and I looked at him and I said "YES". I couldn't believe it. I was going to get married. Everyone knew I was getting proposed too except me. I was truly clueless. We set the date for June 12, 2004.
There was so much to do in so little time. My mom pulled off an amazing wedding. I still to this day I don't know how she idid it. I didn't know how I could deserve for someone to love me and to be willing to marry me. I, never in my wildest dreams thought this day would come but it did. Our wedding day was extra special, what was suppose to be a small wedding ended up being a big wedding. My Mama and Mom walked me down the aisle. I think even my family were shocked to see that I was actually getting married that most of them showed up to see me get married and to who I was marrying. I will always remember this day and I even remember the time we said our "I DOs" it was at 3:49pm. There were so many details in this wedding that it would take hours to write and too long. One important detail was he wanted his Dad to be able to marry us and that was made possible.
Matthew and I have been married for seventeen years. During those years we have built our family. We went to have four beautiful daughters. Our children will always be our greatest blessings. It has not always been easy road but its our Journey. Never give up what God has joined together. If you keep God in the center it can't break. It doesn't mean you won't go through troubles and believe me there will be many hard times but the secret is to find that person that is willing to fight the battles with you.
Remember, perseverance with the right intentions will never fail you. I longed for a relationship that one day that I would be a mother and a wife. God gave me the desires of my heart. A family that I call my own. We are the Diehl Family.
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